I think I
might be Indian in my past life!
Maybe I truly was,
or maybe my intoxication with Indian culture hallucinates me into a bizarre and crazy belief!
Even before I stepped on the land of India, I
have been fascinated by her rich and colourful culture and arts: the powerful
and mesmerizing musical and dance rhythm in Bharata Natyam, the mysterious
performance of Khatakali, the breath-taking beauty of Mughal arts, the unique
serenity of the Buddhist statues, and of course, the amazing play of colours in
Holi as well as the peaceful happiness in Diwali, both are Hindu festivals
celebrating the precious human nature in the name of gods. More can be added
into this list, and the most interesting is certainly the highly entertaining Bollywood
films, interweaving everything artistic into a spectacular ensemble that marks
the unique cultural feature of India.
Some would say that such a fantasy can never
survive that actual experience of being in India. The poverty and
underdeveloped social milieu scare most travellers immediately after they walk out
of the airport, as we see in The Best
Exotic Marigold Hotel, in which the English ladies are so shocked by
whatever they see, even the air they breathe in. The reality kills the fantasy,
and many would end up leaving the country with a great disappointment. That is
not my experience though. The truth is every minute I spent in India only
strengthens my strange love for that country and her culture, and the character’s
falling in love with India in the end reminds me of how much India offered me
when I was embraced by her vibrant pulse and hospitality.
The excellent acting of these brilliant actors –
a retired man who grew up in India, an old lady who served a family of the high
society all her life, a widow who lost almost everything due to her late
husband’s wrong investment, a couple who try so hard to fake a happy marriage,
an aged gold digger who still wants a rich husband, and an old man who seeks
love and the rejuvenation of life – constructs a sense of reality, with which
viewers are not only deeply touched, but also drawn into an imagination where
they feel what human nature is through the magic of Indian culture, regardless
whether the viewer truly has that actual experience of India or not. Or probably
it is my personal preference and experience that make me like this film so
much!
Of course, there are stereotypes, and the revelation
of cultural stereotypes poses some problems as well. Even though India has not
yet lifted herself from actual poverty and underdevelopment – the most obvious
example is the recent massive black out that affects almost the overall
Northern part of India, the film representation reinforces the already
prevalent image of what India should be. This image is composed of yellowish
sky with dusty air, horrible traffic, as well as a skyline of unorganized
buildings, usually with a huge orange setting sun behind the wavy air. To add
extra exotic flavor to this background, a bunch of dark skin children running
around tourists and begging for money, even with their naïve smile, is always
arranged to set off those spectacular ancient architectures standing at the
back. This is the India we perceive in our mind through different kinds of mass
communication in the age of World Wide Web, or understood as the age of
simulacra. Is this image real? Maybe it is for my memory of India is not that
different from the scenery captured by the camera lens. However, this image is
not what India truly is. It is only a surface without depth that has been
falsely believed as a truth.
India has so much to offer in terms of her
culture, particularly a unique humanist view seeking a life of peace and love.
No matter how those characters reject and deny the environment and people
around them, being surrounded by those who are brought up by that specific view
on life and the submersion in that culturally rich environment slowly change
their views, leading them to embrace what used to horrify them and even making
them willingly become a part of that country. It could be sympathy or friendship
with a deeper though not complete understanding, but it is no longer exoticism,
no longer a prejudice that sees people and their culture through a
looking-glass. It is the characters’ sincere reception and understanding that
saves the stereotypical representation from becoming a biased cultural note
that is arbitrary, hostile, and superficial. Once again, great and mature
acting helps this film to eschew the problem of cultural imperialism – though
not totally successful – in colonialism.
One aspect is particularly interesting, and
this is the story of the retired official who spent part of his life in India
when he was young. Unlike all the others going there primarily for a fresh
start after retirement, he goes there with a wish that has haunted him ever
since he left that land. His love for India is inseparable from his love for
this Indian man, and he wants his life without regret, a perfect ending in the
perfect place. Such a homosexual relationship is essentially intolerable, let
alone it is one between a white boy from the dominant social class and an
Indian boy from a lower social stratum. Forbidden it is, so the unexpected
exposure of the scandal results in the misery of the two, and the following
political turmoil further complicates the issue, making their reunion an
impossible dream, an eternal loss. How amazing the power of love it is! He
finds the love of his life and learns about his loyalty even though he is
forced to marry by the social norms. His lover loves him so deep that he had to
confront his wife with the unbearable truth. Now he is ready to die, but he
dies a happy man because he finds his heart again on that land of his dream.
What is special in this story of love is not
the loss or reunion, but the understanding of the Indian man’s wife and her acknowledgement
of love. Love brings about a deep understanding of human nature permitting her generous
acceptance of her husband. The true love between two men is not that different
from the love between a man and a woman in her eyes. She sees love as a natural
phenomenon in terms of classical Hindu religious and philosophical perspective,
a worldview she was brought up by, not a moral standard according to social
norms and prejudice. Of course, not all Indians are like that, and it is more
likely that most of them reject homosexuality in terms of religious doctrine,
particularly those growing up in a Muslim surrounding. It is this great
contrast that highlights her notions on love and life, showing not only the
unique and healthy attitude to life in classical Hindu thoughts, but also a
different representation of Indian culture.
Corresponding with this view of life is the
warm and encouraging embracement of others in the Indian society, and it is
this open embracement without preconceptions that helps the widow who has never
really lived a life of her own to start bravely a new meaningful life. Through
her exploration of both herself and the new environment, she slowly regains the
meaning of her existence and also opens her heart again to welcome new
possibilities. Indians are passionate and they are willing to help, though
maybe too passionate that somehow scares those who are so used to keeping the
distance. The house maid who is forced to leave her job shows that fear of
being close with people, particularly people with colours. Her self-defence is
a perfect example of racism, but ironically she is the one who fights for the
right of the hotel owner. She would not have changed her very limited view of people
and the world without that willingness to change, a change that owes its debt
to the passion and care of those around her. Their embracement gradually opens
her eyes to see how people really live their everyday life. When you decide to
really open your eyes to see what life is, skin colours, poverty,
underdevelopment, and even nationality all become nonsense. What matters only
is that concern for another human being whom you care and love, whom you would
try your best to help when obstacles arise, whom you know deep down would do
the same to you. Now begins a beauty and wonderful friendship that goes beyond
all sorts of boundaries like age, social status, and cultural barriers.
Maybe I was just lucky when I was in India,
because I know there are stories from others that do not match the represented images
of culture and people in this film. But it cannot be denied that good things
are beautiful and they are more easily recognized in India than in most Western
developed societies, a society of consumption in which human relations are
reduced to the exchange of goods. Everything can be calculated in terms of
monetary values, even human emotions, with a result of a cold and detached
human world. The good acting of the characters reintroduces the significance of
being human, but this significance would not be achieved without its being set
off by the rich and vibrant Indian culture, which sees life as a journey of understanding.
Peace, love, and content are the divine prizes for those who are willing and ready
to pursue this journey, to become human again.